"The greater part of our happiness
or misery depends on our
dispositions, and not on our
circumstances. We carry the seeds of
the one or the other about with us
in our minds wherever we go."
A positive attitude
can play an important role in how
you react to treatment and the
challenges that it may bring. Our
goal is to provide you with tools
that will inspire you with ways to
go through your cancer journey with
grace, dignity and an attitude
filled with hope for the future.
are positive thoughts that celebrate
you and your spirit. These brief
phrases are designed to help you
feel stronger and more in control.
We encourage you to read through
this list and pick the affirmations
that speak most to you about your
situation. You may want to pick a
different affirmation daily and
repeat it several times throughout
the day. You may want to write your
own affirmations, or you may want to
rely on phrases and verses from the
I see myself as a healthy person in
love with life.
I lovingly tend the garden of my
I pull the negative weeds and make
room for positive affirmations to
A life filled with wonder is a life
My spirit can never be taken from
me, for it is the part of me that is
Whenever a door closes in my live,
at least three more new doors open.
I am safe I am open and receptive to
new fulfillment in my life.
I have all the energy to accomplish
everything I put my attention to.
I know that even difficult lessons
are opportunities for positive
Everything is working out for my
No matter where I am or what I am
doing, there is beauty around me.
True living is being able to see
that beauty and to take it in.
I am an expression of unlimited
What I choose to think and do today
has an effect on my future.
I am a powerful creator.
I do matter - to myself and to God.
I am deeply loved and cherished
I am an eternal, spiritual being
having a human experience.
My soul rejoices in this experience.
Life's unfolding invites my
Ultimately, only I can choose my
My personal power increases when I
accept and embrace this truth.
Usually, if I am thankful for what I
I don't have time to focus on what I
I am patient and kind with everyone
I meet each day.
I am a person I really enjoy living
I rejoice in the successes of
others, knowing there is plenty for
I am doing the best that I can. Each
day gets easier.
I am deeply grateful for all the
love in my life.
Kindness starts with kindness
I have dozens of opportunities a day
to laugh at myself and only a few to
laugh at others. Only a fool would
choose the lesser when the greater
is so present.
It's important to let myself
experience the grief I feel when
something has ended.
Attitude determines how I handle and
may encounter the phrase, "The gift
of cancer." It may take some time,
but you may come to see it this way,
After you've been frozen in your
tracks with the diagnosis, perhaps
sometime during the treatment period
- or maybe even months after your
recovery, you will discover "the
gift." Every crisis contains the
seed of opportunity. Open your
spirit as you would open the earth
to plant a flower's seed. Give
yourself permission. If you will
allow yourself, you can find beauty
in any beast, even cancer.
Each person's "gift" differs. Cancer
may be your opportunity to discover
a community of caring, compassion
and love made up of fellow cancer
patients, sensitive counselors and
dear, dear friends. The resounding
grace of these individuals impacts
the very essence of the human
spirit. You may feel totally
unprepared for the unconditional
love that is available during your
encounters with members of your
healing community. If your own
support system is small, reach out
to a cancer support group. While
some expect a somber, serious
setting, they are often surprised to
discover bright, hopeful
personalities that work hard to turn
pain and numbness to laughter
Your journey to these remarkable
resources requires no suitcase or
ticket. The only prerequisite is an
openness of spirit - an attitude
that seeks to find blessings in
adversity. Prepare to be filled with
faith and interior joy. Always seek
the light: the darkness will
dissipate. By being mindful of the
present moment, you likely will
discover a totally different world
filled with abundance.
most likely your prognosis is good,
you cannot help but question your
mortality. Permit yourself to step
out of the immediate terror and
assess your situation somewhat
objectively. Draw upon your personal
faith, confidence in your medical
treatment plan, and whatever else
you value for strength. A world of
opportunity awaits...and your cancer
diagnosis gives you "permission" to
What have you
always longed to do, but haven't?
What old friends have you been
meaning to see, but haven't? What
relationships would you like to
repair? Take advantage of cancer's
wake-up call, and start living your
life as only you can.
act a little crazy? Want to do
something out of character? Want to
pursue a long lost dream? The gift
of cancer gives you permission. It's
amazing what you can get away with
now - if you really want to. Chances
are what you want to do is not that
outrageous - it's only convention
and habit that have prevented you
from stepping out of your
Granted, practicalities may deter
you from following every whim to its
fullest. But allow yourself to
consider the possibilities. Dreams
frequently have a way of making
reality more palatable. Readjust
your life as you feel you are able.
Make plans for the future - because
you do, indeed, have a future. Even
those with the most dismal
prognosis, can and should look
forward. Hope always exists. Don't
insist that every moment be perfect,
but attempt to see the most positive
aspect of every moment.
you cherishing each moment of your
life or is it a rushed blur? When
was the last time you felt awestruck
by a magnificent sunrise or sunset?
Have you recently savored the warmth
of sunlight on your face or the
coolness of wind cradling your body?
Do you take time to watch the stars
sparkle and dance in the sky or what
about the ever-changing panorama of
cloud sculpture? The gift of cancer
can bring a remarkable clarity and
closeness with the environment. I
now have a clear appreciation of the
Native American blessing "draw
strength from Mother Earth while
accepting peace from our Father in
Heaven." Simply allow yourself time
to commune with nature, and you are
apt to find yourself filled with
wonder, astonishment and peace.
"Inhale peace; exhale despair."
"Breathe in hope; blow out fear."
"Inhale healing; exhale disease."
"Breathe in love; blow out turmoil."
Mindful meditations. Sensory
awareness. Healing touch. The gift
of cancer puts you in touch with an
entire community of caring
individuals eager to equip you with
tools for coping with everyday
stress that others may never know
Now may be a time that
you learn how much you are truly
loved and cherished. Those "others"
who have avoided a life threatening
diagnosis may never experience the
outpouring of affection and respect
that you likely will. Let yourself
discover how many people truly love
and admire you. Harness the energy
of those loving thoughts that
surround you - both near and far.
Embrace this affection as an
integral part of your healing.
Let yourself be open to the love
that is waiting to surround you.
Love is everywhere...waiting to be
tapped. Don't be afraid to tell
those close to you how much you love
them. Chances are they need to hear
those words as much as you need to
say them. Likely, you will be
astonished at the extent of your
support system. Now is not a time
for isolation. Express your feelings
like you never have before. Always
remember: hugs are wonderful healing
tools. Allow relationships to
strengthen and deepen. Now is also a
time when someone close may
disappoint you. Be careful. Don't
let an unfortunate incident put you
off the path of self-discovery and
healing. New friends will emerge if
you grant permission. Your circle of
caring will continue to expand. Be
open. Acquaintances once taken for
granted may soon develop into your
most cherished friends and soul
On a practical side,
learn to become an excellent
manager. Delegate. As you are able,
allow others to manage your
appointments, your home, and your
daily needs as you focus on healing.
What complications of your life can
you release to someone else?
Accepting assistance is not a sign
of weakness, but rather of strength
in that you know who you are - and
what you need. In accepting offers
of help, you are giving to the giver
as much as he or she is to you.
The gift of cancer brings a new
awareness of your body; its
strengths, its weaknesses. If you
use your gift wisely, you'll learn
how to cope with your fluctuating
energy reserves. Chronic fatigue
was, perhaps, the most difficult
"gift" that I had to accept.
Hopefully, you will learn the
following lesson quicker than I did.
Think of your energy level as a bank
account. More than ever before in
your life, you must replace with
rest what you withdraw with activity
- or you will soon be overdrawn!
Pace yourself. Like many of the
gifts, this one translates into your
everyday life - long after you
Recognition and acceptance of death
as a natural transition of life will
likely come to you sooner than most.
Yes, confronting your own mortality
is uncomfortable. But you must. The
gift of cancer can bring a sense of
peace and serenity that few know.
After you have dealt with the
possibility of dying, you are freed
to savor the reality of living.
Live, laugh, love as though your
life depended on it - it does.
Wiggle your toes in a carpet of
grass. Be open to the romance of
life. Laugh a lot. Cry when you feel
like it. Let the child in you
emerge. Talk about your dreams, your
fears, your expectations. Take time
to listen. Discover your source of
peace and strength. Spend time
there. Touch and be touched.
In the end, it's love. Cherish
yourself and others. Find joy in
everyday experiences. Allow yourself
peace. Embrace each day.
What Cancer Cannot Do
Cancer is so limited...
It cannot shatter
It cannot corrode faith,
It cannot eat away peace,
cannot destroy confidence,
cannot kill friendship,
shut out memories,
It cannot invade
It cannot reduce
It cannot quench
It cannot lessen the
power of God.